Friday, June 30, 2006

Gay Couples May Become Foster Parents in Arkansas

By ANDREW DEMILLO, Associated Press Writer Thu Jun 29, 7:25 PM ET

LITTLE ROCK, Ark. - Arkansas cannot ban homosexuals from becoming foster parents because there is no link between their sexual orientation and a child's well-being, the state's high court ruled Thursday.

The court agreed with a lower court judge that the state's child welfare board had improperly tried to regulate public morality. The ban also violated the separation of powers doctrine, the justices said.

Reading this story brought me back to the time I performed a concert at Indiana University. In the audience was a father who brought his adopted teenage son. The son had been very self-destructive but this foster dad (who became an adopted dad) told me how inspiring my story had been for his son.

What learned later was that this dad and his partner were what the state referred to as "foster parents of last resort." Meaning, if no one else could handle the children or would take them, this gay couple could and would. They had 9 kids. Some were emotionally disturbed. Some were physically ill. But that House of Love had some kind of magic over it, that, once placed, the kids would find themselves getting healthy, surrounded by love, and healing.

And why was this couple a "last resort" couple? Because they were gay, of course. But did that matter to the two men? Not at all. They were more than happy to accept the outcasts, the forgotten, the ones the so-called "healthy hetero couples" didn't want.

All children need is to know that they are WANTED and LOVED. Just because a home is headed by a hetero couple doesn't automatically make it a better home. But for the gayhaters, they only care about a political agenda of erasing us out of society.

Clue card to the gayhaters: We ain't going anywhere. You can try to erase us, marginalize us, demonize us and deny us civil rights, but we will be right back in your faces. We have the power of Truth on our side and all you have is the cowardly cover of your own ignorance and bigotry.


Anonymous said...

Possible presidential candidate AR Gov Mike Huckabee says that because Arkansas voted against Gay marriage, he "would expect the legislature to deal with this since the state constitution by way of 74 percent of its voters already have."
He's disappointed that the court seems more interested in what's good for Gay couples than what's good for children needing foster care.

Steve Schalchlin said...

He's a politician. He knows in a state like Arkansas he can use gay people as the public vote gatherer. I don't know what conservatives would do without us. What would they run on? Competence? No... Fiscal responsibility? No.... Security? No.... Honesty? No....

Yep. They need us.

Anonymous said...

I believe that sexual orientation should not matter either but in the society we live in it does. As a former foster child, I must say being with a "gay" couple would be hard to cope with. These children have already been through a lot and are struggling to "find" themselves. So to add more confusion (by throwing a gay couple as their parents) is a bad idea. Look at it this way a child wants to be a normal as possible, especially a child of foster care. They want the traditional family status. Mom, Dad, Siblings, etc. Not two Daddy's or two Mommy's.

P.S. Trust me I am not a "gayhater" I have friends and family who are gay and I am completely fine with them.

Steve Schalchlin said...

Anonymous, do you think an orphan would prefer to grow up in an institution rather than with loving gay parents in a stable home?